How Not To Waste A Good Debate

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If you can’t attempt to empathize with the other person’s argument, the debate will be over before it evens starts. It will be pointless. But today, the argument will continue. Empathy does not mean agreement. 

EVERYONE IS ARGUING!

Of course we are. There’s 7 billion people across this glorious speck in the universe. We’re not going to agree. Shit, with all the slanted news, the odds are stacked completely against us…unless you’re like most people and have a personal jet to travel and observe for yourself.

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Now that you’ve accepted that, together we can understand how to argue an opinion without being an asshole or an idiot. While the debate can be intense, there are only a few simple steps to follow to make sure you leave the debate satisfied you made your point and you’ve thought critically of what your opponent had to say (yes that is important too).

  1. Have An Argument– You don’t know how many times I’ve read an opinion so far-fetched, it was obvious a 747 could clear the space between the person’s head and the moral of the story.
  1. Do Some Research It’s not necessary to spend endless hours outlining studies. But basing your argument on one story that you just happen to scroll pass and agreed with the headline is possibly the laziest thing a person could do…and we’re either sitting at a computer just clicking, or sitting somewhere more comfortable just swiping. Confirm a few things before typing. Make sure the current event isn’t tied to decades of things you didn’t consider…or common sense. I say this knowing if you take my advice, I’m sacrificing some of my online humor.
  1. Accept When A Point Has Been Proven Wrong  It becomes funny when you keep insisting the trickle-down effect worked.
  1. Respond To The Argument  Not what you think will distract people from your dwindling points.
  1. If You Are Going To Use Sarcasm, Be Good At It  Nothing is more satisfying than getting a sarcastic response that you can tear into pieces in 3 three sentences…You know what? Ignore this, I’m not sacrificing my hobby.
  1. Be An Adult  The world will never completely agree with each other so don’t end the debate making the opponent feel like you ran and cried into the arms of your confidant. Even if the argument becomes intense with emotions writhing, do your best to calm the situation and actually consider their side before ending the debate. Doing that will allow you to confirm how thoughtless your opponent was after you calmed down leaving you less likely feel like maybe you missed something. Your opponent will have had no choice but to at least consider your side since you did your research on both the specifics and the broad range of the issue. Your opponent’s choice whether to use critical thinking skills is why society is crying.
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Politicians, Catch Up. People, React.

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Yes, we know. For decades you had the ability to make decisions without the media so far up your ass, they knew you had colon cancer before you got the results. For decades it was your word against someone else’s and of course someone America chose to represent would never lie to achieve what they want.

For decades, the ability to keep to yourself when it came to making decisions was standard and the majority of us didn’t care enough to do in-depth research on the politicians who affect our future. A few were silly enough to make the front page, but I guarantee many politicians would need to secure a designated driver when entering a game of ‘I Never’ with middle class citizens.

But not anymore.

We’ve finally placed society in a position that puts many politicians in a unfamiliar light and we all should pat ourselves on the back.

So why aren’t we?

Ah I know. While the media continues to easily shove inaccurate, one-sided stories with relevant facts buried in the sensation, we continue to believe that because it speaks to what we trust, it must be accurate, and if not, we’ll figure out a way to right the mistake by twisting the truth to correlate. Because our side can’t be wrong. Our side must succeed no matter how silly the response was.

It’s so apparent, politicians are blatantly spitting in our face every chance they get and we won’t react because reacting may hurt our side’s chance of winning (winning what, I’m not sure yet. We’re all losers right now). If that’s not bad enough, some of the politicians have the media outright backing them in their pursuit to power and feel that it would have no affect on their ethics as journalists (think about that the next time you share an article or video).

Here’s a quick example.

Chris Christie admitted that if he were elected president, he would strike down on states who have legalized marijuana. He doesn’t believe it should be legalized (but felt compelled to push sports gambling and maintaining Atlantic City gambling casinos, enabling an addiction many people can do a six degrees of separation from). He openly admits that back-tracking would be one of his priorities.

We’ve seen the financial success that the legalization of marijuana has done for the recent legalized states. We’ve seen statistics that say New Jersey has one of the highest move out rates. We see the tax revenue it brings in the recent legalized states, so much so that money is needed to be given back. We’ve seen endless money spent on prisons in New Jersey, while people still get high anyway. Violent crime has decreased since the legalization of pot in Colorado. A drunk cop from New Jersey crashes and kills people.

Not to mention the new studies coming out contradicting everything we were told to believe.

How he thought he had any right to speak of it is beyond me. But that’s not the point.

Now, the response from the people were genuinely hilarious as most couldn’t believe that Christi thought he would be elected as he has his state citizens running for a new beginning. But the fact that a politician thought so highly of himself and so low of the people should tell us something.

We are not really paying attention. Haven’t been for years. We believe exactly what we are told by the people who have chosen their salary over the truth. Not their truth. THE TRUTH. Great example of the trickle-down affect. Are we liking the results? We see it, but our reaction is not enough to thwart the actions of the people who were elected to speak for us. Some have tried to react. Those not powerful enough have to hide. Some of us don’t know how to do something. Some think they can’t. Some just don’t care. Which category are you?

We The People Need to Reread The Constitution

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“We the People of the United States, in Order to form a more perfect Union, establish Justice, insure domestic Tranquility, provide for the common Defence, promote the general Welfare, and secure the Blessings of Liberty to Ourselves and our Posterity, do ordain and establish this Constitution for the United States of America.”

Those words were taken directly from the intro of the original Constitution and became the abstract leading to The Bill of Rights. They had the best intentions, and their actions made sense. But can we honestly say that the way this country is behaving correlates with what citizens hold so close?

We are not unionized if you take a look at the trends over the years. Some group has a problem with something, therefore splitting the country further and further away from what our forefathers wanted. This leads us to lack of domestic tranquility.

Which is causing us to become a divided set of people. We’ve gone beyond disagreement. Citizens of the United States are leaving our country and joining sides against us. (Sound familiar)? Whether you understand why or think these people are backstabbing, blasphemous humans, the fact that they were willing to defect shows you the there is an extreme dilemma in our unity and we are anything but tranquil.

I have to say, this country spends plenty of money proving that they will defend this territory (not people) to the end.

Our predecessors have failed us. I can’t believe that us, as the next generation cannot come together and say that out loud. They were greedy, they twisted everything around to make us believe that the general population will benefit. They paid off people to tell us the news they wanted us to hear and because of that, we now live in fantasies fighting against each other and what is right. We are not flourishing. We are dying at the hands of ourselves and those who are promised to protect us. And then fell “The Constitution” and it’s Amendments following.

Everyone boasts about the Constitution, quoting amendments with many not understanding that a re-look at the Constitution brought about The Bill of Rights. Nevertheless, we’re quoting them like it will make the situation better. The first sentence tells you that our current situation does not follow the Constitution. It’s already been violated but we ignore that fact and continue to move on.

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It’s covered with our failures, but we allow our leaders to guide us with that fact proudly. We sit here in 2015 and act like we are succeeding with our beliefs and our current morals and decisions. But to what end? When will we finally cock our heads to the side and say…’huh?’

I’ll end this by saying in the last 250 years, we’ve turned an unimaginable amount of fantasies into last year’s top product. We continue to explore, invent, and discover things that we never imagined could be. We’ve learned we have been wrong about so many things. I am baffled at why people hold close this Constitution assuming men centuries ago knew how this world would be. Look up the word AMENDMENT!! Why is change so hard for us?

And why oh why do people think the second amendment will protect them from the government if and when they feel the need to take over? I’m pretty sure, our lives are in the hands of an agent who plays video games on his free time, sitting at a desk staring at us while we’re on the couch watching whatever makes us relax and…

Stop scraping the surface and try to go back to the beginning…and realize it was 250 years ago and adjust to the present.